pUrPose...

One of the greatest needs we face in life is a need for purpose, which is why we find ourselves chasing after things that resembles but aren’t a part of our destiny. We are naturally attracted and drawn to the things we lack; therefore, being void of our purpose can lead us to trying to meet our need for purpose with the wrong means.

Attraction is a great way to locate purpose because we are drawn to things that compliments who we are and who we desire to be on the inside. Our attractions and the things we are drawn to are things that resemble our life purpose. This doesn’t necessarily mean we are meeting the need correctly, which is why it’s important to examine your heart. For example, I may be attracted to a person who is doing something I’ve always wanted to do. This doesn’t mean I need to be in relationship with this person; however, I can learn from this person. It’s very easy to confuse attraction with romance because it’s connected to a drawing within that is not visibly seen but it must be properly managed. You can find yourself in wrong situations because you tried to meet your need for life purpose through your romantic connections. You are not completely wrong for what you feel you’re just mismanaging the purpose of that person in your life.

Reflection is another way to locate purpose. Some of the things we are drawn to are like mirrors or reflections to what is already developing on the inside of us. You are currently in seed form and this person can be water to our seed. That’s because this person is doing something you too were created to do which explains why you are gravitating to this person or in this direction. You taking this connection or opportunity and making it a relationship/friendship can cut yourself short of meeting your true need of this person in your life.

Purpose is personal, between you and God. No human being can give you purpose. They can help you see deeply into matters that’ll inspire your purpose but only you can discover your purpose in life. A lot of times we look at people operating in their purpose and we assume we should be connected to them because we share similar interest discounting the fact that we have never explored their true character and maturity outside of their purpose which may not be a match romantically or a friendship for us. You don’t know who they are as a person apart from their gift and post. You don’t know the persons likes or dislikes, so how do you even know if you would like them. You like only what you see which is something similar to your need but not exactly what you need. It’s like trying to gather something from what you see externally to meet an internal need that is personal and completely isolated from the individual.

I’ve always yearned for my purpose. I thought I needed to be married in my early twenties, which there is nothing wrong with marrying early, but it was at a time when I was still trying to find myself. I do not regret marriage because it plays a huge part in who I am and who I’ve become in life. I believe Miles Monroe who pointEd out, “Purpose is fulfilled in phases.” Purpose is not a destination but a journey.

In loading purpose it is person to reach within rather than externally. Otherwise you will find yourself in circles chasing every means that has very little meaning to your life purpose.