P U R P O S E F U L D A T I N G

Waiting on the right person to date requires not going on a ton of useless dates. “No, I don’t want a free meal. I already know you’re not the one for me,” should be our response, but let’s be honest we have all done the total opposite.

Many times I have been guilty of going on dates just to get out and have fun. I didn’t realize my night of fun was a case of carelessness at the expense of another. I failed to take into account the other person’s feelings, and interest in me. As a result, I’ve received messages like “I’m not taking you on anymore dates” or “I feel like this isn’t going anywhere or “I feel used.” In other cases the guy felt in order to get me out he had to feed me and was okay with me being a total waste of his time.

I didn’t realize I was dating without a purpose.

1. Purposeful dating requires knowing what you want in a mate and waiting on that person.

2. Purposeful dating requires you being a good steward of others feelings and saying no beforehand.

3. Purposeful dating requires gaining knowledge of that person before going out to eat with that person.

4. Purposeful dating requires seeking God about that person.

5. Purposeful dating requires fellowship in group settings of likemindedness to learn the person’s character, goals, relationships and beliefs.

Do you agree that dating is something you should wait to do when you are certain it’s the right person?