An Unbreakable Identity

 

Our world today has become obsessed with image. No one knows who they are anymore. We don’t know if we want to be Petty or Positive. We seem to be following the trends as they go up and down and eventually nowhere. It’s because we have lost our identity. We somehow misplaced it with what’s popping or not, which can change by the minute. I believe we are on a hunt to find our true selves but don’t quite know what that looks like. We know we should have an identity but where? Is it in our clothes? Should we wear expensive or thrifty clothing Or should we wear more clothes or less? Is it in our hair? Should we wear weave or not? Should our natural hair be wavy or kinky? Is it in our education? Should we get a degree or not? Is it in our finances? Should we be humble and poor, or filthy rich?

 

We make a great deal of these things but are they the solution to finding identity? Is this how we find who we are in the world? Do we pick a category and boom we find identity?!? Where does identity begin, is it in the world, is it in our possessions, or is it in people?

 

There was a woman who had an internal issue and everyone identified her by her issue, but when she touched Jesus, He turned to her and identified her as daughter. 

 

Finding identity comes with knowing that you are someone’s creation.. “God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them”, (KJV Genesis 1:27). Which means we have His image. Our identities were made from God. Somehow we were distracted by the world and lost sight of this truth. I like to refer to it as a broken spirit or identity. A broken identity is an identity that’s been tampered with and broken away from its original state. It’s the opposite of a strong spirit. When a person’s spirit has been broken it separates them from who they really are, and it separates them from God, who can show them who they are. Broken identities are common today. All someone has to do is call us out of our name and we are broken. We can’t get it out of our heads, “He/She called me a name.” “Who did God call you?” According to His word He has called you by His name and there is no greater name than the name of God. We have to stop falling apart when someone misnames us and learn to identify ourselves in God.

 

Self-awareness and self-acceptance goes hand and hand to finding identity. You have to accept who you are. We are a part of the world but we decide who we are going to be in the world. That decision comes with acceptance of ourselves. It’s so easy to reject who we are when others have rejected us in someway but it takes a willing, strong and confident person to resist how others feel, and what others have said about us, and still choose ourselves over and over again.

 

A person finds themselves when they find their purpose. When you know you have a purpose to be here, you don’t feel broken in any way. You understand that your life carries weight and has value regardless of rejection, abandonment or abuse. Instead of seeing yourself as a problem, see yourself as the solution. Instead of seeing yourself deserving of mistreatment, see your misuser as someone who has a problem with themselves. When you realize that their emotional problems aren’t your problems, your spirit/identity becomes untouched by their false illegitimate perceptions of you.

 

Identity comes with identifying. You must identify other’s opinions of you, as one separate from your identity. Separate the two, “Yes, this is how they may feel, but No, this is not who I am.” Do not take their opinion of you as a part of your identity. Remember, you identify yourself in the word of God, and not by the words of others. This is how your identity becomes untouched. Don’t let someone define you. Define yourself and tell them who you are.

 

A sure  identity is an unbreakable identity. When you refuse to listen to what others have said about you, that doesn’t match who you are, then you are certain of who you are. You understand only God and self can tell you who you are. Anything said differently or otherwise is a lie.