Change Your Mind Change Your Life

We live in a society that makes it easy to make life altering decisions without first counting the cost. Which is why we find ourselves more and more making decisions in life we aren’t mentally prepared for. This is how we cover-up but never change.

You cannot make yourself a committed person with a non-committed mindset. Neither can you fix a cheating mindset until you are a mentally ready to bank on that commitment; otherwise , you are setting yourself up for a default and who you really are will show up. If your default is one of non-commitment, then you won’t be committed. Change starts in the mind.

Emotions are not enough to make a commitment. Most emotionally driven people aren’t committed because they allow their emotions to lead them. We all know emotions can and will have you all over the place. We feel differently everyday about everything. Being a committed person goes beyond the way you feel. For example, If you are committed to getting fitness results, hitting the gym goes beyond how and what you feel. If you are committed to a relationship that you value, your commitment goes beyond how upset the person makes you feel. If you are committed to being a parent, you don’t tap out when your kids are challenging your authority or disappoints you because being a parent goes beyond the gooey feelings of parenting. A person who is emotionally driven has a challenge committing because they would rather live on a high of emotions than feel a sense of responsibility and obligation to others. This person feels safer in environments that are unstable, manipulative and discontent.

How you see commitment can prevent you from making a commitment. Some people see commitment as a prison. They would rather be in prison to their emotions than be committed outside of themselves or to a particular system such as parenting, marriage, Christianity, work, fitness and much more. While others may find commitment easier when it’s involving only themselves, they don’t see the value in using commitment to obtain healthy relationships with God and others. They don’t see the benefits of committing to others. Which is why non-committed people are unstable. God places an order for every system we operate in life. It’s up to us to work them and lead less selfish lives. When we rebel against this order we ruin healthy relationships and find ourselves always chasing self-inflated thrills and gains in life that aren’t fulfilling, or are a temporary fulfillment.

Being a committed person is a choice. If you change your mindset and choose to see commitment from a healthier perspective, you will be on your way to a better relationship with yourself and with others.